No, this entry is not meant to be ironically titled, considering that I haven't written anything in MONTHS. A good friend and I met up recently after a long hiatus. We were talking about relationships. Isn't that what we women mostly talk about? I guess there are other things to discuss. The weather, new shoes, how the job is going, the kids, the dog....whatnot. But, when the rubber meets the road, (and trust me, it inevitably will if you are good enough friends) most female conversations end up about relationships.
All in all, relationships are all the same, I'd argue. Your boss, your friend, your co-worker, your spouse, your kids, your God. The key to the sustainability to any relationship is good communication. My friend really made that point with me. She said, to paraphrase, "I think, given the right variables, nearly anyone could get married, so long as they are committed to communication."
But, as I've said recently in a note I wrote on Facebook, the words Honesty and Truth are not synonymous. Both are utterly necessary for a relationship to work. However, I'm not good at honesty. Well, I'm good at not LYING, but I'm not good at disclosing my feelings or thoughts in a given situation. I hate conflict. I really, really hate it. I have to push the cloud of fears aside to express how I really feel about something. This is my greatest challenge in life.
I dream of it though. I literally daydream about cultivating relationships (or even one) where I'm dead honest. If I like something or someone, I just say it. If I need something or someone, I express that need. Just the idea of that feels incredible gutsy to me. I definitely don't put myself out there....
Okay, I'm going to try to be as real as I can as I write any new entries in this blog. Let's see what happens in the coming weeks.......
